Equality, inclusiveness, and access: Just ask!

Equality is not just a hope, an aspiration, or a privilege to be granted when convenient—it is a fundamental right for all. Inclusiveness and access are not optional extras or tick-box exercises; they are the foundation of a fair and just society.

For deaf children and their families, these principles must be upheld consistently, not applied selectively when it suits organisations, institutions, or authorities. True equality means breaking down barriers—physical, societal, and attitudinal—so that every child, regardless of their hearing ability, can thrive in a world built for all, not just the majority.

And yet, for many, the reality falls far short of these ideals. Too often, deaf children face not only systemic barriers but also assumptions that hinder their inclusion. Assumptions that all deaf children require the same type of access. That all can sign fluently, or that all are verbal, or conversely, that none are. These broad generalisations fail to recognise the diversity within the Deaf community and the individual needs of each child.

True inclusiveness requires us to move beyond one-size-fits-all solutions and focus instead on tailored support. And the most effective way to achieve this? Simply ask. By listening to deaf children and their families about what they need, we can create environments where they are truly seen, heard, and empowered.

Inclusivity is too often offered with a "but" or signed off with a "maybe". Many enquiries are met with caveats like, "If your child can’t get into it, then you might want to look elsewhere," instead of the proactive response, "What can we do to make them comfortable?"

This conditional approach shifts the responsibility onto families rather than challenging organisations to adapt and truly embrace inclusion. It’s not enough to open doors halfway—true inclusivity requires a commitment to meet every child’s needs without hesitation or excuses.

It’s important to acknowledge that the population has a wide range of needs beyond deafness, and it’s understandable that catering to every single one can be a challenge. It’s not always possible to meet everyone’s needs perfectly—but minor changes can make a huge difference. A simple conversation, a friendly attitude, or an effort to listen can mean the world to a family navigating accessibility barriers.

At the same time, inclusivity often lies in not treating disabled people as though they are fundamentally different. Creating an environment where differences are respected but not highlighted unnecessarily can be key to fostering true inclusiveness and belonging.

Spreading this message further afield is not just important—it’s vital. Before my son William was born, I’ll admit I might have made the same assumptions I now fight against. I might have failed to see the barriers others face, failed to consider their needs, and failed to engage—despite believing I was doing the right thing. But becoming a parent to a deaf child has opened my eyes to the reality of inequality and the power of inclusion.

As parents and family members, we have a responsibility to do more than advocate—we must educate. By sharing our stories, challenging ignorance, and showing others how small changes can transform lives, we can build a world that truly values every child. Our children deserve access, respect, and the same opportunities as anyone else—not out of charity, but because it’s their right. Let’s not wait for the world to catch up—let’s lead the way, and make it a place where every child, deaf or otherwise, can thrive.